Seeing forgiveness as emotional self-care may sound strange. Especially if you experienced an abuser telling you to forgive when they...

Anger Starvation and Positive Admission are two constructive ways of dealing with another’s anger, disappointment, or frustration.

Expressing Emotions and Empathy is the second of the Assertive Communication Skills series. They complete the self-defining skills along with requests and refusals covered earlier.

Writing is a way to know ourselves. It eases us through unsettling times. A bonus: robust self-awareness provides guardrails against accepting coercive control.

Grief is always a normal and important part of healing for intimate partner abuse survivors.

Here are some questions whose answers offer clues about whether you are dealing with someone who is emotionally abusive. Proceed with caution and talk about it if you don’t like what you see.

Intimate partner abuse survivors have one or more of the following experiences with their own anger. Actually, all but the first one are common for others as well. This blog will explore each type before talking about anger as a superpower.

I am opening a new chapter in my career. I will be sending in the manuscript for my book for survivors of intimate partner abuse within a couple of weeks. I began revising my web site to reflect that I only do intimate partner abuse work now. I am contemplating supervising a Master’s level student. I have two workshops to prepare for this fall. A lot is happening and it is all in the middle of a pandemic!

Trauma symptoms can worsen when triggered by current stressors.

"A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying in other words that he is wiser today than he...

Poise is a state of balance. We can see this physically when we view poised people moving with grace and agility. If thrown off balance,...

There are two kinds of fear . One is the realistic fear that we experience when we're in danger. This is rational and self-preservative...

My neighborhood came through a line of storms with much loss of trees. When I walked around, I was moved by the giant root systems that...

We all have times of crisis in our lives. I like to remind myself as well as others that the symbol for "crisis" also means "opportunity"...

That is the question - isn't it? Too often we don't bring our attention to the perspectives and attitudes we bring to our interactions....

Have you ever noticed that when you are most stressed or challenged, you tend to spin in circles? This can happen in the form of racing...

Have you ever thought about whether aggression is innate? This morning I watched the hummingbirds around my feeders and was fascinated...

I recently became a grandma for the first time ! Spending time with my daughter and new grandchild has been wonderful. It has slowed down...

In an ideal world, all of our experiences growing up would be positive. Our family members would unfailingly give affirming messages...

When you experience fear, anger, hurt, or any other unpleasant emotion intensely, notice any inclination to bury, devalue, or resist...