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Controlling behavior is the systematic domination and oppression by one person in a way that makes it clear that another person(s)  is...

It is often an irony that we fear what we also want. We may want success in some particular way, but we are terrified of achieving it...

There are two kinds of fear . One is the realistic fear that we experience when we're in danger. This is rational and self-preservative...

My neighborhood came through a line of storms with much loss of trees. When I walked around, I was moved by the giant root systems that...

We all have times of crisis in our lives. I like to remind myself as well as others that the symbol for "crisis" also means "opportunity"...

We are constantly making meaning of our world through our thoughts.  All thoughts are neither true nor untrue, they simply are.  ...

Birthing is for everyone ! If you're male, I hope you don't stop reading. The metaphor of giving birth is an apt one. Manifesting what...

That is the question - isn't it? Too often we don't bring our attention to the perspectives and attitudes we bring to our interactions....

"Follow Your Bliss."   Joseph Campbell I've always loved this quote from the first time I heard it. That happened during a Bill Moyers ...

When you dim your presence, people can't find you - because you're not truly being yourself! All of us have a light within us that is...

Have you ever noticed that when you are most stressed or challenged, you tend to spin in circles? This can happen in the form of racing...

How fear plays into our internal predators is complicated. Looking at the seductive aspect of fear is not meant to deny the reality of...

The billboard “LOVE” is a huge draw for us. Romantic love is idealized and romanticized from the time we are young. The portrayal of...

The need for “ Connection” is one of the signs that draw us into any relationship, whether intimate, work related, friendship, or...

“One of her greatest fears is that her partner will change after she leaves and someone else will reap the reward of her effort. She...

It is healthy to receive attention and admiration from others as well as to give it. Sometimes in the beginning of a relationship, we...

Another seductive highway for controlling relationships is fear of being alone . This road is well traveled by many men and women,...

Another internalized predator stems from the cultural imbalance of valuing masculine over feminine , which creates conscious and...

What gets us to accept blame that is inappropriate? For many, it’s not so much agreement with the blame as fear of “Abandonment” . This...

The strengths which attract people to this avenue are “Unselfishness ” and “Care for Others” . However, controllers warp these values...